We have a date! Ajay's surgery is scheduled for July 5th ( not sure of time yet ), and all pre-op testing will be done this Friday, July 1st. I was on the phone all day with doctors, nurses, family planners for hotel stays, registration personnel, etc. Lots and lots of schedules to accommodate :) All of the labs done previously have come back okay, but the surgeon wants to run his own tests.
Monday, June 27, 2011
surgery
We have a date! Ajay's surgery is scheduled for July 5th ( not sure of time yet ), and all pre-op testing will be done this Friday, July 1st. I was on the phone all day with doctors, nurses, family planners for hotel stays, registration personnel, etc. Lots and lots of schedules to accommodate :) All of the labs done previously have come back okay, but the surgeon wants to run his own tests.
Updates....
and garlic bread which he seemed to enjoy. We just keep trying different things, along with his rice so that he gets some nutrition while he is adjusting. He can be demanding at times, and will push food away without trying. Although we all encourage him, you can't make a child eat or drink. He has been dehydrated the last 2x in the hospital, so I worry about him not drinking enough. He is on liquid supplements to help with nutrients and vitamins to keep him strong.
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Thursday, June 23, 2011
A Jay made it through his heart catheterizaion, for a total of 4 hrs exploration. He did wonderfully, with his strength shinning through. He and I are spending the night and should be released tomorrow. Next step, all the doctors and surgeon will examine all tests over last day, and will send files to surgeon. Then the team will come up with a plan, and schedule surgery asap.
Until then...
Monday, June 20, 2011
Sunday June 19th
Friday, June 17, 2011
In the USA!!!!!!
We had a rough flight from Guangzhou to Beijing, waiting on the runway for over 4 hrs. A Jay got really upset and threw up everywhere. I was initiated, then had to fly at 1130pm. We arrived at our hotel at 3 am. Needless to say, we were all beat and had to wake by 5am for our flight home. All went well and Ajay went willingly and slept for about 3 hours total and did well on the flight. He was antcy some, but I was as well. Its a long flight, followed by a 5 hr drive home. He did well until about 2 hrs on the road, where he omitted in the car. It seems that when he is really upset, he vomits quite easily. I couldn't drive any faster and I knew he had enough travels. We were also delayed. We had some traffic and construction delays, so we didnt arrive home until after 6pm Thursday night.
We arrived home and the other boys were so excited to see us and Ajay :-) They were bringing out all of their toys one by one, to show him all the fun ahead. It was cute how they interacted without trouble. Ajay was a little timid for the first hour, but soon realized that they weren't so bad. They played for a short while, and A Jay had a bath, his oxygen treatment, and fell asleep in my arms. He slept from10pm til almost 4am. I thought that was pretty good considering the travels, new home, environment, etc. He did sleep in his own bed which we placed in our room in case he awoke in the night. He never cried...just slept peacefully.
We prepared for our Monday morning appt with the pediatriian at 10am. A Jay woke signing "brothers" and didn't seem to understand why they were not up at 430am :-) They all woke to eggs and toast, Ajay eating an egg but refused the toast, and did try some milk. We had a good morning.
We went to our appt and the pediatrician immediately told us to go to the hospital. A Jay,s oxygen levels were o ly at 64%, and his pulse was in the forties. He seemed okay like the day we met him. He was actually playing with Anthony when we were told to take him, and the hospital was waiting. So yes, I was a bit surprised. Paul and I drove to the hospital and we were admitted within minutes. We arrived s out 1230 in the afternoon, followed by a series of questions by the nurses, PA, and doctors on call. They soon four d too that he was very u stable, and was not able to let us go ho e, ut in fact preparing us for a couple days stay. The needed to put in an IV to increase his fluids from dehydration and weak veins. He needed to be on oxygen continuously, to raise his oxygen levels, to 75 range, and to be able to get a CT scan and chest ray, echo, and other heart tests completed. One problem was his hemoglobing is too high, making it not possible to get the dye in for the CT scan. So fluids were given around 9pm this evening. They had a terrible time trying to get his IV started since his veins are so fragile, they blew 5 out from the start. Poor guy was in such pain, and I was not able to help him. He played there crying calling, mama. My heart broke as tears of exhaustion and fear shown in his eyes. They finally got a line I, and slowly started some fluids. By morning, we are hoping that his veins and hemoglobin levels are improved to continue with the CT scan, which will provide the doctors with a better understanding of how his heart is functioning. I do know he will require oxygen constantly when we are released from the hospital. So i will be working on that process tomorrow.
All in all, it has been an overwhelming day. We are in the right place with the right resources in place. I will keep you all updated as I get knew information.
Please continue to keep little Ajay in your prayers as it will be a long road ahead.
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Tuesday June 14, 2011
Ajay's leg appears to be a tiny bit better this am. He was up most of the night scratching, restlessly in the night. I couldn't seem to stop him from itching and I felt so bad. I massaged his legs, and tried to occupy his hands from the intensity he felt throughout his infected leg. The scratches were so intense that he looked like he was scratched by a cat. Deep enough to bleed and make him more miserable. I used lotions and Benedryl and nothing seemed to work. When morning came, he awoke with several scratches on his left foot and now right calf was now swollen and reddened just like the left one started 4 days ago. I looked into his eyes and not only saw an exhausted boy but also one with a swollen shut left eye. He apparently got bit on the cheek near his eye and it swelled shut. He looked worse than a rerun of Rocky IV. I felt so bad for him. He itched and itched not only his legs but his eye. Paul and I were amazed and confused by the mosquito bite again, as we have not once been bit during this trip. We saw one in the hallway and once in our room, but killed it immediately. We thought we were free of these pests. Unfortunately, Ajay is attracted to these like a magnet.
Monday, June 13, 2011
bath time after Safari Park
Despite his sore leg he still has that winning smile! He loves his bath time and asks for it several times a day!
Safari Park June 12, 2011
Today was a free day and we decided to go see the Safari Park in Guangzhou. It was a very rainy day, with storms through the night and still very very humid. Ajay's leg looked about the same, but felt that the antibiotic needed time to work. If not better by Monday, I would take him back to see the physician.
Sunday, June 12, 2011
Sunday June 11, 2011
Friday, June 10, 2011
Dragon Boat Celebration
The Dragon Boat Festival, also called the Duanwu Festival, is celebrated on the fifth day of the fifth month according to the Chinese calendar. For thousands of years, the festival has been marked by eating zong zi (glutinous rice(糯米)wrapped to form a pyramid using bamboo or reed leaves) and racing dragon boats. The festival is best known for its dragon-boat races, especially in the southern provinces where there are many rivers and lakes. This regatta(赛舟会)commemorates the death of Qu Yuan , an honest minister who is said to have committed suicide by drowning himself in a river. |
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We're in Guangzhou
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Thursday, June 9, 2011
Friday June 10, 2010
Good morning, I sit here this am typing and wondering what today will hold...we have to pick up ajays Chinese passport, check out, fly to Guangzhou to finish adoption paperwork ( medical visa, Chinese visa, medical exam, TB test) at 730pm tonight. I'm posting early here Friday morning in case we don't have Internet access right away. We will be staying at the Victory Hotel in Guangzhou from Friday night til Wednesdsy night June 15th, when we catch an evening flight back to Beijing in early preparation for 750am flight on Thursday morning June 16th. We will fly from Beijing to Chicago on Thursday....and head for home. So lots ahead, so please keep the prayers coming! A Jay is in for more changes and I pray that he is able to fly and his heart can tolerate the experience without too much fear or discomfort.
Until tomorrow...Carrie
Thursday June 9th
Well, today is Thursday, and we are on our last free day. Before leaving for Guangzhou on Friday evening, we hoped to see more of the surrounding shopping area. We were able to go to Wallmart and some small shops nearby, but it was a quick day as A Jay was not up for any kind of shopping. I'm not sure if he wasn't feeling good, or he just wasn't in the mood for shopping. We went to get a couple of snacks for the airport and travels for Friday. Again, he wasn't interested at all. So we hurried along and got a few things, stopped at the police station for notorization of paperwork and headed back to the hotel. He woke around 415am and asked for some yogurt, and I changed his diaper. I asked if he wanted to rest soem more, and he signed 'sleep' so i layed him on the bed next to me and he cried some. I picked him up and held him close. It was the first time his heart was beating next to mine. It was a fluttering motion really but was wonderful he felt close enough to me to let me in his world. It was another wonderful moment to share....as i felt him drift off to sleep in the darkness of morning. He must have wanted some cuddling because he didnt want to let me go. He ended up sleeping til 815am, and headed for the door for breakfast. (As if he were late for an appt) We played all day, laughing, giggling, coloring, and doing puzzles. Ajay played and laughed like we are old friends....its another amazing day here in Nanchang :-)
Wednesday is another wonderful day!
Today was another free day, waiting for more papers to be processed, and getting to know the people of China as well as our new son A Jay :-) A Jay slept last night from 830pm till 4 am, then asked for some yogurt. I gave him his yogurt and then back to sleep until 830am. He wanted breakfast right away, so we went right down to breakfast at the hotel. He seems to be feeling better and his cold symptoms are somewhat better. The cold meds provided by his foster home has been a lifesaver :-) I let him pick the foods he wanted, curious to see what he would choose...and he picked corn on the cob, cherrios, and pork congee. I wasn't sure he would eat any of it, but actually ate the congee first, then the cherrios. He never did touch the corn, but he did touch it a couple of times. He was quite funny and curious to try everything on my plate, eggs, banana bread, and apple juice were some of his favorites. Paul had a chicken nugget and hash brown potatoes (yes we are at breakfast) and he signed 'no' that he didn't want any. I had to laugh inside, thinking to myself, good choice. He ended up testing a whole piece of banana bread, his cherrios, and several spoonfuls of congee. He signed 'no' to milk and also to any fruit. We had a free day, so we rested and played in the room for most of the morning, until lunch. And like his regular schedule, he asked for lunch promptly at 1130. He signed to put his shoes on and we went to eat lunch again at the hotel. He chose this time, MY Chinese dumpling soup :-) He ate 5 dumplings and I wasn't sure I had seen him eat that much since I met him :-) He was the happiest little boy, and was very content with his soup.
After lunch he usually gets a nap, and rest time, according to his schedule at the foster home, which I have tried to follow for several reasons. But today was different, A Jay was in charge....first dumplings and then he signed to go out. He signed 'shoes' and went for the stroller, then the door as if he had an appt. It was a free day, and we didn't plan on any outings. We sort of were surprised, but thought maybe we could get some fresh air for a short while. So we found a small park nearby and we walked for about an hour, in the shaded areas. It was so humid and hot that I did t want him in the heat for long. He asked for a drink and we stopped for a drink. We tried some ice cream and he spit it out. I am finding he really doesnt care for sweets :-) He was very content and just wanted his water. He asked to leave by signing 'car' so we left :-) Sounds silly but we just followed his lead. We came back to the hotel, and we all took a nap. A Jay was just as content as ever. Almost unbelieveable, yes? He slept soundly but cried a little with his night time oxygen treatment. Not too much, but just the kind of cry that tells a mama that I'm tired...and sure enough he was asleep in minutes holding onto my finger.
Like I said, another wonderful day...
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
We have judah :-)
Hello everyone! We officially have Judah now officially Ajay :-) He arrived approximately 930 am this Tuesday morning, scared, tired and a little sick. The nanny reported that he was on the train for 10 hrs, and didn't sleep but from 10pm - 5 am. He woke up and was upset to get off the train. He ate an egg and did end up getting sick. He came to our hotel room, ill looking and upset. I gave him his oxygen treatment and within an hour he was feeling much better. His color came back and he was back to himself. I offered him a yogurt, and he drank some, and gently placed it back on the table. He sat close to Paul and rubbed his leg. He looked to me and we played a little and colored a page in his new coloring book. His nanny brought along his favorite monkey....he signed for it and I was thinking, oh my....what are we going to do without a monkey! Then the nanny pulled it out of her bag, and I was never so happy to see that monkey in all my life! He laughed and we played with it for a little bit. He was so happy, to have something so familiar in such a strange place.
We rested for an hour so he could finish his treatment. He was ready to go! First we walked to the Civil affairs building where we met the orphanage director, and paid fees for entire adoption process for the week. We processed papers, passport, and made a visit to the police station to notorize papers, all in one afternoon! Ajay did wonderful, and slept in my lap during most of the meetings. When he was awake, he liked seeing all of the cars, signing "beep beep and car" as we drove through the city. He seemed pleasantly amused by the sights, looking and babbling more than I ever heard him before. We had more yogurt at the hotel, and he took another rest in between appts. He slept right after his passport picture in the car ride back to the hotel a third time.
I was so happy he was able to say goodbye to the nanny who headed back to Beijing for another 10 hr trip. He hugged her, but didnt cry as he held onto my sweater. I shook and squeezed her hand as tears fell from both of our checks as if to say goodbye and thank you, at a time that didn't seem like the words 'thank you' was enough. It was definitely bittersweet day for her and the staff of the foster home.
He now sleeps soundly as I type this entry. We are very proud and feel very blessed to be his parents and just know that great things are ahead for this little boy...
(On a side note, yesterday was a free day, as we waited for Tuesday to come to finally be Ajay's parents. We ventured to Walmart on the Main Street of our hotel, taking in the culture of the Chinese people. The driving is insane, observing swerving cars, bikes, scooters with 3 people holding on....its China....the people are friendly, kind and are always anxious to help us...and I wouldn't want it to be any other way. This was our sons home. His birth place. Its where he was born. How could I view it in any other light...)
Sunday, June 5, 2011
Day 4-June 5th.....today is Sunday, the day we finally head to Nanchang Ajays province. We arrived around 2pm, met our guide and went to the Galactic hotel in the business district. Its very nice here, busy with traffic, but manageable. We will not be seeing A Jay until Tuesday when all of the adoption paperwork processed. A Jay's nanny and him will be traveling by train to meet us here in Nanchung. We are excited to be his forever family.
Easy day sitting in Beijing traffic, actually 7 hrs inclusively waiting patiently as we observe the maniac swerving in and out of cars, people, and motorbikes to eventually see the Great Wall. It was an amazing site with beautiful mountains and surrounding greenery up a steep path of brick steps. Mind you these steps were uneven, pitted and about 24 inches high. The land was hilly and the grade was easily going to kill our calves, knees, and thighs. But we endured onward...it was well worth the trip but we did venture to a tradional Chinese restaurant after the wall and experienced real Chinese quisine, of sweet and sour chicken and spice deep fried chicken and zucchini, veggies barely warmed and of course white rice. It was followed by a tour of a factory of many good Chinese fortune trinkets. With the intent to see A Jay after lunch, and with all the traffic I soon learned it was the Dragon Boat Festival this weekend which made the traffic worse. So we missed our little buddy until after his dinner. We walked in and A Jay was watching a movie, and when he saw me, he said mama. He reached his arms up for me to hold him and we watched a few minutes of his video. I was able to play with him for almost 2 hrs before his bath. The nanny bathed him and I thought I should exit soon, in case he cried, I didn't want the nannies to have to deal with him so upset. So, I blew him a kiss, and signed goodnight through the doorway. He motioned back the same. I told him I would see him soon, and left him for the night.
Friday, June 3, 2011
Day 2...we had two meetings today and of course saw our baby A Jay right after breakfast, around 830am after morning prayer with the NewDay team. Our first meeting was with the nurse, who was able to help us purchase a portable oxygen tank to take on our travels within China as well as the USA. She was so helpful and gave such pertant information that will make our trip safer. She handed me a bag full of medicines that we can use if AJay comes down with a cold. She said that he gets a little runny nose could easily turn into pnemonia. She was so helpful! Our last meeting was not really a scheduled meeting but a couple of hours spent with A Jay outside preparing for the special meal for the Dragon Boat Festival this weekend. I can't remember the name of the lunch item, but we spent the afternoon preparing them. It consisted of rice filled bamboo leaves wrapped in a boat like shaped leaf with a date inside. Its then soaked in water overnight and steamed or eaten cold. All of the preschool children prepared them. A Jay of course was more interested in diving through the water and mashing the rice, splashing around in the bucket and just having a good time messing around. He wanted no part of the actual meal celebrated on this special day. We enjoyed taking a ton of photos and playing in a plain bucket of water. It was soon lunch, then nap time, and we returned for our last visit with A Jay for the day. He was giggling and laughing with Paul, and the other children were in line for giggles too. I was able to help him with dinner, and started to say good night, and as I held him and kissed his cheek, he nodded his head no. He was saying no, he didn't want me to leave! I couldn't believe it! Paul knelt down and kissed his cheek and he started to cry and yell. We had to leave him, for it was the rules for now, but it was a bittersweet moment...he was attaching to us, but also was hard to leave him crying at the door.
I took a few hundred pic today, so I am going to try to post them here.
Thursday, June 2, 2011
We're here! We arrived at approximately 1 am after a long bumpy flight, and long car ride to the village 2 hrs from Beijing. We settled into the guest house awaiting daylight to finally meet our new son. We rested a while and went to breakfast at the cafeteria here at New Day Foster home. We were greeted by several college students who are here during a missionary trip. They gave us the quick ins and outs on a breakfast foods, drinks, and surroundings. All were very weloming, and seemingly knew who we were before we introduced ourselves. We were famously A Jay's parents. I was honestly surprised how much people knew about us and a our new son. He is a hero here at New Day and a true miracle. They all have prayed for a family for so long, and the day has finally arrived. The staff were all so grateful to be a part of our journey.
After breakfast we were given A Jay's daily routine and we were asked to follow him and see how he reacts to us. We began with a team prayer including the main staff members from the foster home, doctors, nannies, students, etc. It lasted 35 minutes of sincere prayers for this special day. The day the Lord has made for Judah to begin his new life...the day so many people have prayed for for so long was here.
The, we walked to the playroom where A Jay was playing and looking at our photo. I entered first as he looked straight into my eyes. He looked down at the picture, then looked at me, then at Paul. It was amazing to see his face make the connection between what was just a photo and a real person. We sat on the floor and played. He started to sign "help" and l signed it back, actually helping him with his block puzzle. It was almost a sigh of relief from him, knowing that I knew what he was trying to say. We immediately connected. It was from that moment he continued to sign to me, interacted with all of his toys and just played as if I was there forever. I felt that erie kind of familiarity in a way and there was never any awkwardness in his behavior. He quickly called out "mama" and used more sign language to communicate. He learned that I could sign too, which seemed to mark the beginning of our bonding. A Jay was calling me mama the rest of the day, holding my finger, rubbing my leg, and sitting in m lap. We read books, colored and sang finger plays, which I quickly learned he enjoys.
Soon it was lunch and rest time, and Paul and I left him for a quick bite, while he napped. When we returned, they were playing songs, and signing with hand movements to Old MacDonald. One of the nannies said that A Jay asked where his Baba and mama were. That was awesome to hear, that in only a matter of hours, he was looking for us. It warmed my heart.
I also learned today about his heart, meds, and all about the care he will need and has received. I spoke with both the in house nurse and doctor about his oxygen levels, foods, allergies, etc. It was a very informative day. An emotional day. A good day.
We are so lucky to have the care, love and tremendous concern for this child. I truly believe that he indeed is a living miracle that not only He has carried, but his family here at New Day has endured.